I’m surrounded by love. Every weekend I’m a witness to it. I’m in a business that survives off of two people falling in love. A concept that is really crazy when you think about it. This invisible force that draws two people to one another, causes them to make irrational decisions and then willingly rearrange and re-prioritize their entire life. And if that magical fairy-like force sticks around long enough, those two people begin planning a day to showcase and celebrate it.
I was never habitually falling in love. While a lot of people dove headfirst off the cliff, I jumped with a parachute and slowly glided down. In some base level shape or form, I loved all of my past significant boyfriends. I wouldn’t classify them as significant if I hadn’t cared about them. They each had qualities that momentarily intrigued me or fleetingly fulfilled some need but lacked longevity and commitment. Looking them in the eye and truthfully saying “I love you” wasn’t an option. It made me vulnerable. It made the relationship something more than I wanted. It could easily be confused for “I’m madly in love with you” which was definitely not the case. To avoid the pressure, I would often disguise the words “I love you” with secretive code words that only he and I knew because in my twisted mind, it didn’t mean the same thing and could easily be retracted.
Saying the actual three words required a moment and a meaning. And if you’re the instigator, it might require liquid courage. There are only a couple instances when I’ve crossed into “I’m In Love” territory and those moments were so meaningful, I remember every detail. In my life, when I’ve said it, I’ve meant it. Especially if I was the one laying the cards on the table first and even if silence followed. It wasn’t to add fluff to the evening or to romanticize the situation, it was because it was an undeniable truth that needed to be verbalized. It’s such a pivotal point for any relationship and once the words travel from your heart to your head to your mouth to his ears, there’s no turning back.
Here’s what I think and it’s completely applicable to a lover, family member or friend. If you have someone and they make a positive impact on your life, if things would never be the same without them, if you’ve shared priceless and spirited moments together, if they make you strive to be a better person and if at the core of your crazy relationship there’s love – tell them. I’ve learned it’s okay to have your own set of rules for being in love. We can try to describe it but it’s impossible to define it. It can’t be confined to age or gender or race. It sometimes happens when you least expect it and sometimes happens only to leave a bittersweet taste. I know it’s somewhat morbid but I live under the philosophy that I could die tomorrow. The unthinkable bombings in Boston and local news headlines only continue to fuel this philosophy. It’s that thinking that causes me to buy something crazy or take a last-minute trip or rock out front row at a concert or love with heart wide open. Because if today was or is my last day, I don’t want to leave with a handful of regrets, emotions bottled, apologies silenced or words unsaid.
I know that’s a strange introduction into a wedding post but if anything, Matt and Amy can relate because they’re in love and a few months ago, they made it official. These lovely images have patiently been waiting in a folder on my desktop to be posted. I’m silly and thought I had already published them which obviously, I didn’t. Without further delay, I’m delighted to give you a peek into Matt and Amy’s wedding day. A group of some of my favorite vendors came together to give the couple a gorgeous summertime wedding at the Duke Gardens in Durham. AJ Dunlap Photography captured each moment and detail with artistic precision. Emdotzee Designs created a complete wedding stationery set that complemented the wedding’s overall theme. Brides and Bouquets provided stunning bouquets and gorgeous rustic centerpieces including birch-wrapped vases. Ben Suggs with Southern Entertainment kept the crowd dancing while The Catering Company of Chapel Hill kept their bellies happy with delicious food. Simply Cakes provided a small wedding cake and cupcakes that guests devoured after dinner. Don’t you love those vibrant pastel linens and gorgeous cloths that mimick burlap without the harshness? CE Rental exceeded expectations again. As wedding favors, the guests were given one of the couple’s favorite treats – Locopops. From the lavender escort cards to the photo booth to the sparkler exit, their wedding was full of charming details and most importantly, love.
Want to see more pictures? This sweet wedding was featured on The Lovely Find!
Ceremony + Reception Venue: Duke Gardens
Photographer: AJ Dunlap Photography
Florist: Brides & Bouquets
Catering: The Catering Company of Chapel Hill
Cake: Simply Cakes
Linens: CE Rental
Officiant: Rev. Phran