Does The Man Buy His Own Engagement Ring? (Who Buys The Grooms Ring)

Once you’ve asked the most important question of your life when you propose to your partner, you will then be left with another burning question. Who pays for the groom’s ring? If your proposal is accepted, this is probably the next thing that will be on your mind.

It is typically a widely accepted notion that the groom should purchase the bride’s ring, but no one really talks about who is expected to buy the ring for the man.  This can be quite an awkward subject to broach with your partner, but we are here to help you to figure it out.

In this article, we are going to tell you everything that you need to know about purchasing the groom’s ring, so you don’t have the awkwardness of making a decision without the right information.

Thankfully, there is no right or wrong answer, but we are going to give you all of the information you need to make the right decision for you.

Does The Man Buy His Own Engagement Ring?

In the past, this wouldn’t have been a difficult decision to make. it would have automatically fallen to the man to purchase the rings. Before this point, men didn’t even typically wear wedding bands as this wasn’t something that was hugely popular. So, if they did want to wear their own wedding band they were expected to pay for it themselves.

Even when men did start to wear wedding bands it was unheard of for a man to allow the woman to pay for his wedding ring. This was because mine was considered to be the supporter, and the person that brought home all the money. If a woman offered to pay for the ring, this would have been considered to be offensive.

However, in today’s culture, things are much different. Both men and women are able to buy their wedding rings, and in some cases, they would buy each other’s wedding rings. It is completely up to you to decide what works best for your relationship, but there is no right or wrong method.

Who Buys the Groom’s Engagement Ring?

It is completely up to you to decide which one of you will buy the groom’s engagement ring, but we are going to provide you with some helpful information below, so you can make the best decision for you and your relationship.

Traditional Couples

If you consider yourselves to be a traditional couple, then it might make sense for you to follow the more traditional route. This means that when it comes to selecting and purchasing a ring, tradition would say that buying the groom’s wedding band would be the duty of the bride.

Non Traditional Couples

If you are not a couple that is interested in tradition, then you might want to consider shopping for the men’s wedding run together. This can be a really fun experience when it comes to planning your wedding, and it eliminates all of the guesswork and confusion that can come with the Bride having to choose the ring.

This allows you to  plan a day of Ring Shopping where you both go out together and choose the ring as a couple. You could even choose to split the final payment, or one of you could choose to foot the bill instead.

Husband and Husband

If the two people in the relationship are both men, you might even have even more questions. This can make the process even more complicated if you are not sure who should be buying the rings.

However, it doesn’t have to be. You could go out together and shop for each other’s rings at the same time,  or one of you could take the initiative to surprise the other. You could also take a look at some of our other options below, to see if any of these would work for you.

Go Ring Shopping Together

For couples that are looking to share this experience together, you might want to consider shopping for your wedding rings at the same time, including the engagement rings.

This might not be the romantic proposal that you had planned, but it does eliminate the potential for either of you to dislike the ring that you have been proposed to with. It can also provide you with a great bonding experience.

Another great thing about choosing your rings together is that you can decide as a couple what your budget looks like and shop for the Rings that fit inside this budget.

You can also look for Rings that suit both of your tastes, or even find a matching set of things that you like. One of the best things about this is it eliminates any of the stress that comes with proposals and shopping for rings.

Shopping for Each Other’s Rings

Another option that you could consider is to go shopping for each other’s rings. If you don’t want one of you to have to pay for both of the rings, you could each choose to buy one for the other. you could still go shopping together and pay for each ring separately, or or you could go shopping separately and surprise one another with the new rings. 

This is a common middle ground for couples and it is a great way to stop arguments over who pays for the rings.  Due to the fact that the rings are chosen by the other person it can also make the ring choice more personal and meaningful to both of you.

Important thing for you to remember is that you’re buying the ring for the other person as a symbol of how much you love and adore them. As long as you are carefully considering your choice of ring and you have the other person in mind when you are buying it, you are doing the right thing. 

It also allows for you both to be financially responsible and equal when it comes to the purchases. For many couples, being equal is the key to a successful relationship, so why not start with the ring purchase.